WHAT I'VE LEARNT FROM CANCER

On the 17th February my family received the news that Mum had another primary Cancer. We had been expecting something to arise around Christmas as something always does, but Christmas had passed and we thought we'd made it. I suppose we're in a better position than many due to this being the fifth time of hearing news like this however it was more serious than we first thought and this time it was terminal. I thought I would write this post for those of you who may be in a similar position for the first time and don't know what to expect or for others who may feel alone or confused. If I can help others in similar situations or those who want to learn more I will in any way possible.

1) It's okay to be scared

It's probably one of the scariest things you could ever experience but you can't let that stop you from carrying on. One of the best things I've ever heard my Dad say is 'Instead of dying, you've got to start living'. I now live by this and it really helps to make a positive out of every scenario.

2) The word Cancer doesn't always mean death

Take my mum for example, she's beat it 4 times! It's the luck of the draw. Doctors and Nurses work their hardest to ensure you'll get the best and most personalised treatment. I only learnt recently that chemo has a shelf life of only a couple of hours and each bag is individual to that person, made from blood tests the day before.

3) Every case is different

Every time someone is diagnosed whether it's the same diagnosis or not, it's different. The speed of its growth, side effects, treatment etc. There's no way one can compare to another so just because someone else lost their fight from the same diagnosis, doesn't mean another will.

4) You realise the real priorities in life

I've come to learn that people have very different priorities. I would like to be at every appointment but my parents priority is to make sure me and my sister go to school. But family must always come first and in some cases it takes something like this to realise that. When it all comes to it school isn't important, grades aren't important, nothing is. It's the people you love who are important. Don't take anything for granted.

5) Friends matter

Friends always matter but times like this they really do. I've seen how much support my mum has received and I really believe this helps her stay positive. Sometimes it's easier to talk to people that aren't in the family but just because they're not as forward doesn't mean they're any less of a friend. Some people aren't good when talking about emotions or they may not understand.

I hope this helps and if there are any questions comment them below or send an email to amyhall1998@hotmail.com


'Instead of dying, you've got to start living'.
Amy x

The Secret - Rhonda Byrne

This isn't your normal pick up and get into a good story and not one I'd normally reach for but when a friend at work said it was amazing and really helped her become more positive I decided I ought to give it a read.

The book and the film were both released in 2006 after Rhonda Byrne discovered a great secret after a series of traumatic events. She includes teachers and some of the world leaders of business, economics, medicine, psychology, history, theology and science. She also writes about real life stories of people who have changed their lives by using the secret. Examples are eradicating disease, gaining a large fortune, overcoming obstacles and achieving the impossible. This book shows you how to use the secret in every area of life, from health to wealth, success and relationships.

If you like an easy read I wouldn't recommend reading this. Although it's not a long book some parts really do make you think. I felt I had to read quite far in to actually understand some bits but thats probably just me. I agree with some parts but don't with others but it's all down to individual interpretation and experience. There are many reviews as to whether it actually works and it didn't for me but I don't think it matters. It definitely helps you to focus on what you want and to think more positively so for me this is a successful read 

Amy x

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